What a shame! I guess it is onto vanilla sites for me. I shall have to pick my vanilla beans very carefully to find ones that have dominant bits cause.......
I am not perfect
nor unique
I tend to wander when I speak
I'm just your average female joe
trying to run my life-like show
and yes perhaps I feel the need
to be submissive; pay him heed
but on vanilla sites I go
for CM men, I don't wanna know
so how to pick the D/s among
the many men just there for fun
not only D, but long term too
cause casual for me, won't do
so with my list of subbie needs
I weed and stream vanilla seeds
in hopes a fertile one will show
and we can make the D/s grow.
nor unique
I tend to wander when I speak
I'm just your average female joe
trying to run my life-like show
and yes perhaps I feel the need
to be submissive; pay him heed
but on vanilla sites I go
for CM men, I don't wanna know
so how to pick the D/s among
the many men just there for fun
not only D, but long term too
cause casual for me, won't do
so with my list of subbie needs
I weed and stream vanilla seeds
in hopes a fertile one will show
and we can make the D/s grow.
Wonderful prose and thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI am not familiar with CollarMe but being on fetlife I have heard several CollarMe refugees complain about the quality of people going down on CM
You're so creative...that makes me smile.
-H
Such a stern look!!! Yes, I fear that CM is just a kind of OKCupid with dirty words. I think FetLife had some potential in the beginning but was quickly infiltrated by the gimme gang.
ReplyDeleteThe truth of the matter is that there are far to few truly kinky D/s people to populate and support any kind of site like that. Most of the people I have talked to who have met people on lie, did it through the more traditional sites, with a keen eye, such as you suggest.
To add to that complaint - I keep coming across the same people over and over. Are the options really that limited? *sighs*
ReplyDeleteYou make me smile. I have never heard you swear before. It is evident you feel very strongly on this subject. You are an amusing girl charlib. I agree it is very difficult finding a soul who shares your same desires but it can be done with patience. I wish you the best as always.
ReplyDeleteCme is a sad representation of the range of potential suitors there are out there. Trust me, it is as bad for a male as a female on Cme. Nutbars abound with either sex and though I have no instant solution I would recommend from my limited experience that one should grow their relationship on other aspects first and then move into D/s.
ReplyDeleteBTW...big fan of your poetry.
Hi MT! Thank you for your kind words re my poetry.
ReplyDeleteThe problem with cultivating a relationship before the D/s is that you just never know if you are going to be compatible (D/s wise). Each person is so individual in their wants and needs that, to be honest, it is miraculous to me that anyone ever finds anyone to "grow" anything with.
The challenge ensues.
*smile* I like that David...."CM is just a kind of OKCupid with dirty words"...I am not sure exactly "how" to have a keen eye, in this regard, but....
ReplyDeleteThanks Hedone...I am glad I make you smile!
Yes Aurore, same people over and over again...I guess that kind of tells you that CM is not doing its job?
In my experience, nothing is better than reality to find potential (and compatible) partners. And thanks to all the "brainwashing" done by Barbara Cartland, Harlequin, etc there's often the hint of a submissive in a woman that can be developed as long as you're a good communicator.
ReplyDeleteI see, and how do I "develop" a hint of dominance in the men? Ask them how they would feel about making me cry?
ReplyDeleteI have been stumbling across dominants on craigslist who only posted very general ads with no indication of their kink. Funny business, it makes me wonder what the devil God is getting up to.
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