Two Sides of One Coin.....How Many Hats do You Have?

I still have a hard time reconciling the two faces;
cannot easily comprehend how it is possible that they belong to the same person...
the loving, caring, Dominant man, on this side,
the sadistic, Dominant man, on that side;
the line is not blurred...
to me it is black and white and I don't understand how you can cross it,
so readily;
at the drop of a hat,
you are one person;
the next hat falls,
and you are another.
It is frightening to me,
this jekyl and hydeness...
this changing of hats,
that comes so easily;
that is so natural,
to you...
and,
provokes trepidation and unrest,
in me.