On Labeling

B and I were talking about the meaning of labels and how they can effectuate preconceived notions about what lies "under" the label.   We have both had the experience of meeting people who think they know what we, or our relationship, is all about....simply because we fall under the vague categories of Dominant and submissive.  He wrote these words in reaction to our conversation.

I am uncomfortable with labels that attempt to describe me and the relationships I am in.

Although I have somewhat left-of-center views of the world, and believe in living in an eco-respectful way, I don't believe there is an almighty being who watches over and guides us.  If you label or pigeon hole me as an atheist, tree-hugging liberal, you will have preconceived notions of who I am and what I am all about; this is impossible.  If you'd like to know about me, you'll have to get to know me.

It is true that the intimate relationship that I have with Charli does have a dynamic that involves deferral/submission/acquiescence, and that our sexual relationship and play does include restraint/spanking/pain, etc.; however it cannot be summed up by calling it a D/s relationship.  It is "our" relationship.  It evolves, adjusts, accommodates and has its very own life and uniqueness.  If you call me a DOM you will doubtless have a notion of who I am and how I function; that notion is likely to be more inaccurate than the reality.

The only label I am truly comfortable with is the one my parents chose to give me....my name, and that label says nothing about the person I am and what you can expect from me.

I like it that way.

B.

The Magic

Today I felt capitulation that I have not before experienced
A nudge, a beautiful nudge...toward freedom
The freedom to be, who I need to be
I gave more of myself to You
Without trying, or realizing it was happening
And...
You felt it too
You felt it and reacted...
Your Magic was palpable
The Magic that makes me crazy with love and desire.

We are synergistic...
We are exquisite...
Together.