I am uncomfortable with labels that attempt to describe me and the relationships I am in.
Although I have somewhat left-of-center views of the world, and believe in living in an eco-respectful way, I don't believe there is an almighty being who watches over and guides us. If you label or pigeon hole me as an atheist, tree-hugging liberal, you will have preconceived notions of who I am and what I am all about; this is impossible. If you'd like to know about me, you'll have to get to know me.
It is true that the intimate relationship that I have with Charli does have a dynamic that involves deferral/submission/
The only label I am truly comfortable with is the one my parents chose to give me....my name, and that label says nothing about the person I am and what you can expect from me.
I like it that way.