If you are happily married why are you talking to me?
Oh I see, you love your wife dearly and would never leave her but there remains a void and, don't you deserve to be happy as well?
And you have made peace with your desires and have decided that you can live with being deceitful if it means you are able to find a little pleasure for yourself.
Oh no! I am not doubting that you are a good man and a wonderful husband, not at all...and when you finish fucking your little subbie and go home to the dinner your wife has prepared, you can eat fitfully with the knowledge that, both your hunger to exert power over another, and your sexual appetite, have been sated.