I absolutely agree with the advice that one should avoid becoming entangled in another relationship immediately after dissolution of a previous one. This is simply logical and makes complete sense. After living as a "we" for several years, it is important to learn how to live and function as a "me", in the world.
There is, however, another problem. I do not enjoy playing with Dominant men. I cannot fathom a reason on this earth why I would want to be tied up and whipped by a man I hardly know. Now, judging by the profiles on Fetlife and Collarme, I am in the minority here. Many seem to take delight in submissively jumping from one play party to the next, willingly and gladly being stuck by needles and having random fists shoved in their cunt for the evening. Honestly I could never do that. For me there would be absolutely no point as the whole reason for my wanting a D/s relationship is to construct and hold dear that very deep connection that is only possible through the intensity of a Dominant/submissive union. I have tried to play...a couple of times over the past 2 years I decided to be sluttish and whorish and shut my mind down so that only my body was submissive but, good grief!...talk about empty experiences!
This leaves me in a no-man's land (good pun) of, avoiding men completely, jumping into another relationship, or viewing each encounter I take part in with an eye to it having some sort of lasting significance. Don't get me wrong, a big part of me would like nothing more than to be a total slut and prostitute my body to every Tom, Dick and Harry...sadly, however, the intelligent and ever-watchful "me" is worried (too worried) about all sorts of things, not the least of which is contracting some horrible STD, or worse.
Okay so, what now? I do crave friends; there is no doubt about that. I am also feeling insecure and want to know that I am still desired and wanted. There is also the knowledge that there are so many wild and wonderful and very very "different" ways to live and people who live them, and I want to explore and discover all these socially taboo and interesting aspects of life that previously I have been unable to.
So, perhaps I have answered my question. I will wander aimlessly and keep my eyes open. I am quite sure there are many unique and new experiences to be had.